Rescuing & Repairing Rocky Relationships

You want that spark back…

The Sex-Starved Marriage

→ Are you feeling dissatisfied with your sex life?

The sizzle and satisfaction you once shared, the spark that made your connection so erotic, is non-existent. This once vibrant part of your relationship has faded, leaving you feeling empty and fearful that your sex life is doomed. You don’t want to be a couple from a 1970’s sitcom, sleeping in separate beds. You want the allure and excitement that takes your breath away!

The Sacrificing Saint

→ Does it feel like you’ve lost touch with who you really are?

You give everything to be there for others, but you’ve lost sight of yourself. You’ve always been the steady anchor in so many lives, the one people rely on for support and strength. Whether it’s standing by your spouse, cheering for your kids, working day and night, or handling the crisis for every member of your family and friend group, you’ve been there. But when it comes to you, you find yourself wondering who provides that same unwavering support for you. You’re incredibly attuned to everyone else’s needs, yet your own seem elusive and hard to grasp. You realize that you lost yourself and you don’t know how to find yourself again.

The High Conflict Couple

→ Have fights become more frequent and INTENSE?

Your relationship is overwhelming. There’s anger and blame flying everywhere and the apologies aren’t landing. You remember the excitement and joy of your courtship and the beaming smile on your face walking down the aisle, but they feel like they’re from another lifetime. You honestly can’t visualize growing old together. It’s so painful. You’ve been asking, “Do I want to stay in this relationship?” or “Is there a way to save this relationship and get back on track?”

The Fish Out of Water

→ Do you want to start dating again but you’re still healing?

It’s hard to know where to begin when you’ve come out of a relationship that took so much from you. Surviving a relationship with someone who wasn’t right for you; was narcissistic, controlling, unkind, unmotivated, or a best friend with zero chemistry, can leave you feeling uncertain about how to move forward.

The wounds run deep, and sometimes it feels safer to stay guarded than to open up again. You might carry the weight of a past, where you were ignored or met with shame or judgment, leaving you feeling disconnected from your true self, your body, and your ability to experience pleasure. It’s as if parts of you have been buried and you’re ready to discover new depths of your being.

Are you ready to build a relationship
filled with chemistry, curiousity & creativity?

Julie Schmit LMFT

Julie Schmit, MA, LMFT (she/her)
Couples, Sex, & Individual Therapy

Seeing clients in-person and online in Minnesota & online in Wisconsin

Hi I’m Julie

I believe that a synergistic symphony
occurs when people come together to create something extraordinary.

With over 30 years of experience as a healthcare professional, I am ready to guide you to develop stronger relationships and feel more alive than ever before.

I have extensive training in couples therapy, sex therapy, and the mind-body connection. I’m well-equipped to handle a wide range of topics, always with a touch of humor and a non-judgmental attitude. My work is to deepen your experience of intimacy and create a vibrant relationship with yourself and the people in your world. You’re tired of feeling stuck, sad, and discouraged. I’m here to help you discover more joy, passion, and ecstasy.

Couples Therapy

→ Listening is not just taking turns talking.

Here are Some of the Issues I Address:
  • High Conflict Relationships
  • Communication Problems
  • Sexual Problems
  • Infidelity & Affair Recovery
  • Premarital Assessment
  • Using PREPARE/ENRICH
  • Fertility Issues
  • Extended Families
  • Blended Families
  • Rebuilding your relationship once the kids have moved away.
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Sex Therapy

→ You deserve a sex life that’s sizzling, intimate and nurturing.

Here are Some of the Issues I Address:
  • Gaps in Desire
  • Low Libido
  • Performance Skills
  • Sexual Pain
  • Sexual Trauma & Abuse
  • Erectile Difficulties
  • Aversion to Touch
  • Affair Recovery
  • Religious Trauma & Sexual Repression
  • Menopause Issues
  • LGBTQI+
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Individual Therapy

→ It’s time to meet You.
Restore & Reconnect to yourself.

Here are Some of the Issues I Address:
  • Co-dependency
  • Low Self Esteem
  • Trauma Recovery
  • Sexual Problems
  • Infertility/Repetitive Loss
  • Dating
  • Divorce/Break-up Recovery
  • Anxiety
  • Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse
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Marriage ER (Discernment Counseling)

→ Take a breath, you have all you need to make that decision.

Here are Some of the Issues I Address:
  • Quickly Clarifing If Your Marriage Can Be Saved
  • Focusing On Immediate Concerns
  • Discussing Your Issues In A Non-Judgmental Environment
  • Promoting Open And Honest Dialogue
  • Gaining Insight Into Complex Couple Dynamics
  • Building Confidence In Your Marital Decision Making
  • Exploring All Your Options
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Journey with me

1. Take the first step

Contact me to see if we are a fit to work together. We will meet for a 15-minute consultation where you can take the floor and tell me what you are looking for. I can tell you if what you want is a fit with what I provide.

2. Deep Dive

As we work together, I will encourage clarity, honesty, and introspection as you look at the components of your life that led you to where you are now. Insight is the catalyst to change. We can’t change what we don’t see.

3. A New Spark, A Fresh Flame

Together, you can reignite the spark, deepen your bond, and create a space where you feel desired, cherished, and more connected than ever before. It’s about taking small steps, honoring your journey, and learning to trust yourself once more. Healing isn’t about rushing to the finish line.

Joy and Passion don’t have to be earned,
but rather simply discovered.

Let’s make the next 10 years better than the last.