When “Perfect” Gets in the Way of Pleasure: Rigidity, Armoring & Sexual Connection
Erica* appeared confident; a poster child for the American beauty standard. Straight white teeth. Long, sleek blonde hair. Strong, upright posture. A…
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Male Sexual Confidence: Why Does it Matter in a Relationship?
“Men think she’s not interested in sex, but it’s not that… she’s not interested in the sex she’s gonna have. In order…
My 7 Favorite Relationship Boosters & Intimacy Upgrades – Just in Time for the Holidays
Is there anything more important to us than our close relationships? More central to our well-being? Likely not. From the moment of our…
Men and the Changing Face of Self-Esteem
How do you feel about yourself? No, how do you really FEEL about your “self,” your personhood? How do you feel about…
Men, Vulnerability & Close Relationships
It is no secret that many men are raised from boyhood to dismiss their feelings; to treat them as of lesser importance…
The History of ‘Guilty Pleasure’
I have a radical idea: …let’s take down the term “guilty pleasure.” What if we stop feeling guilty about pleasure and the…
6 Ways to Escape the Pleasure Paradox
Too Busy for Pleasure? Don’t worry, feeling sensual and getting sh*t done are not mutually exclusive. “If the world were merely seductive,…
The Erotic Connection: Keys to Lifelong Passion in Relationships (And They’re Not What You May Think They Are)
Years ago, I was set to teach a women’s workshop entitled, “Unraveling the Pleasure Paradox & Embracing Erotic Energy.” To my surprise,…
Unraveling the Mystery of Pleasure
What brings you pleasure? Think about something that gives you pleasure. Most people can list the foods they love to eat (that…